FAQsQuestionWhen my girlfriend is orgasming there is a large issue of liquid right on climax. Not the 'little' amount I see described on websites - but enough to leave a patch hours later on the bed clothes. We really can't tell by smell if it is urine or not, but it's a lot. She is so embarrassed and this is stopping her from enjoying sex. If it is female ‘cum’ could you please explain how much is normal and where it is coming from? Answer Your girlfriend may like to do some reading on sexuality in general. Learning about how our bodies' work can help us make sense of what happens to them during sex. We suggest the excellent book, Our Bodies Ourselves by the Boston Women's Health Collective. This may be available through your local library. You can also find information online http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/publications/obos.asp For accurate and informative information on Sex Ed for the Real World visit www.scarleteen.com The following link is to our website for a brief explanation about female ejaculation. In a fabulous book, The Story of V, Catherine Blackledge describes the female ejaculation very clearly. She reports that some American studies estimate that 10% of the female population experience ejaculation at orgasm. Others quote as many as 40-68%. She also says that numbers fluctuate when we look at the amount of fluid a woman may release at orgasm. 10-15ml of fluid appears to be typical. She discusses the cultural and historical significance of female ejaculation and describes the Batoro women of Uganda being taught by the elders to ejaculate during orgasm. This custom is known as kachapati or 'spray the walls', which certainly suggests more than a little fluid! For some Micronesian people, men differentiate between a woman's orgasm and the point during heightened sexual pleasure when a woman might think 'that she's urinating-but isn't' - it's 'another type' of sensation. Blackledge suggests that female ejaculation hinges on the strength of the woman's muscles around her vagina. , The more forceful the orgasm the more likely a woman is to ejaculate. We have included an article from the Sydney Morning Herald that also explores this issue. And also a transcript from Radio National that discusses female ejaculation. We hope that you and your partner find this useful. |
