FAQsQuestionFirst time sex, what’s it like? Answer First time sex can be a very special time for men and women alike. Many of us enjoy more satisfying sex if we are in a loving relationship with someone that we trust and don't have to worry about falling pregnant or picking up an infection. Some of us believe that everyone is out there having sex, but in fact only about one in five 16 year olds are actually having sex. Making the decision to have sex can be a tricky one; we're all 'ready' at different times in our lives. Turning 16 doesn't make it the 'right time' for all of us. A loving partner won't make us feel bad if we feel that it's not the right time yet. Sometimes it helps to talk with a good friend, with your partner or a trusted adult about your decision to have sex. You can also call a telephone helpline such as Kids Helpline: tel. 1800 551800. For more information on consent and sex http://www.reachout.com.au .Even when we decide that the right time is now, things can be different for each of us. For some, first time sex is fantastic, but others are left feeling let down. Thinking about what we need in order to have great sex can help. A bit of planning can make all the difference. Somewhere private and comfy, where you're not going to worry about your friend or anyone else coming in on things helps you to relax. Make sure you have condoms on hand and that you know how to use one. For condom information: Sometimes, even with all this planning things still don't feel right. Many newcomers can have problems with the ins and outs of sex. Not all of us know how our bodies prepare themselves for sex - giving ourselves plenty of time for kissing, cuddling and playing, allows our bodies to soften and moisten. Remember, sex can be fun when it's good. Sometimes when we're new to sex there can be problems getting the penis (cock, dick) into the vagina (cunt, hole). To help with this, women can take a 'look' themselves with their fingers to check out how things feel. Getting your guy to gently play in and around your vagina with his fingers can help get you ready, extra lubrication (you can buy lubricant from the chemist e.g. KY, Wet Stuff, Sylk), is also helpful if sex hurts a bit. Like any new exercise things can be a little sore to start with, the next day or so can also leave you feeling tender. These feelings should go after your body gets used to this new activity. You can try this site for sex ed for the real world If you are having problems with sex, you can always ring to speak to a nurse on Healthline 1300 658 886. Or, you can see your local doctor or family planning centre to chat about things. Further reading: |
