Sex Matters - Frequently Asked Questions

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• After I have ejaculated or had sex, I find it hard to gain another erection or become excited again. Is this normal, how can I boost my sexual performance and go again and again?
  
  
• How can I protect myself from contracting the herpes virus, and what are the symptoms of the infection?
  
  
• How effective is fully breast feeding with regards to contraception?
  
  
• I am 28 weeks pregnant & I was wondering if I’m going to breastfeed can I go on the pill?
  
  
• I am bi. About two years ago I sucked a guy off, he didnt cum and it was only about under a minute. I am scared that I could have caught HIV. I've been told by the sexual health centre that it's an extremely low risk but I am very worried.
  
  
• I am hoping to get a tattoo and my mother said I should look into which immunisations I should have before getting it done. Could you outline which ones I should have?
  
  
• I have recently heard of a pill which causes a woman to have a miscarriage if taken within the first month of pregnancy, is this true? What is it called? Where can I purchase it from and how much does it cost?
  
  
• I have to have a colposcopy and biopsy tomorrow and maybe treatment. I am getting married in 14 days and was wondering how these procedures will effect my sex life?
  
  
• I just started on the Pill today and I am very worried about the side effect of weight gain. I exercise daily, am very active and have a pretty normal diet. If I continue with my eating and exercise habits should I be ok?
  
  
• I think I have inverted nipples. The middle of my nipples sits flat or sunken in, rather than sticking out or being "hard". Its embarrassing, but I'm also worried about being able to breastfeed when I have children. Is there a permanent way to fix this while still being able to breastfeed in the future?
  
  
• I was involved in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend. I liked it at the start but when he started to get rough I said 'please stop'. He didn't, he just kept on going. Afterwards it felt like I couldn't move or say anything and I still felt like that the next morning. Why did I feel like that? Was that sexual assault? If so what can I do about it?
  
  
• I was reading your pre conception Fact Sheet on your website and saw some information about blood groups and rhesus factor. I have O negative blood and I am sure that my husband has a positive blood type. If he is, will that stop us from conceiving? What problems can this cause and can we still have babies?
  
  
• I would like to use a natural method of family planning. Could you tell me what the different methods are?
  
  
• I’m 17 and had sex 6 times, but I’ve never experienced an orgasm, why???
  
  
• I’m a 12-year-old girl. I haven’t started my periods yet but I’ve already got pubic hair. Can you please tell me what’s happening?
  
  
• I’ve recently had a contraceptive implant (Implanon®) inserted in my arm and ever since my body hasn’t felt like having sex. Could this be caused by the implant?
  
  
• My 18-year-old guy and I went to have sex for the first time a couple weeks ago. He had a hard on for about 30 minutes till we decided it was time. He was ready and says he didn’t feel that nervous, but when he put on the condom he went limp. He took it off and five minutes later he went stiff again. We tried again and the same thing happened. Now he’s nervous it’s going to happen again if we try. Is this normal?
  
  
• My boyfriend and I have been talking about sex. We both really want to do it. I'm paranoid about getting an STD, even if we use a condom. Neither one of us has had sex before so is it possible for one of us to have an STD anyway?
  
  
• My boyfriend came home drunk, beat me up and forced me to have sex. The next day he was ever so sorry and loving, and he promised it would never happen again. But, he has said this before so what can I do?
  
  
• My boyfriend does not cum when we have sex. We are both our first. Is there something wrong with him or am I not doing enough for him?
  
  
• My boyfriend doesn’t know where the clitoris is on a woman. Is there an easy way for me to help him locate it?
  
  
• My husband and I are trying to fall pregnant. We heard that most lubricants affect the sperm and may make it difficult to fall pregnant. Are there any lubricants available that don’t affect sperm and that are good if you’re trying to fall pregnant.
  
  
• Recently my husband and I had sex, and immediately afterwards he went to the bathroom. While he was there, he felt dizzy and fell to the ground. Any idea why this happened?
  
  
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• The instructions say to take the two pills with 12 hours in between, but my friend said she was told she could take both at once. Is this right?
  
  
• Two weeks ago I took the Emergency Pill. I now have very heavy bleeding, much more than a normal period. It is getting heavier. I am worried about this. Could I be pregnant?
  
  
• What food can be eaten to make semen taste better? Are there any foods that should be avoided?
  
  
• Why do I need to use lubricant with condoms when they are already lubricated?
  
  

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• After having sex with my girlfriend, I have some problems getting the foreskin of my penis to go back. I usually need to push it back manually. At first it took me quite a while but recently it has been quicker for me to do this. Is this normal? Is the forsekin supposed to go back by itself? What can I do to help it go back by itself? Should I seek medical attention?
  
  
• After years of trying not to conceive by all manner of means, we have now decided it is time for us to start a family and we are really excited by this, but realise we really don’t know where to start. Can you give us some tips and information please?
  
  
• Are there any risks in having sex while I’m pregnant?
  
  
• At what age do males need to get their penis checked out?
  
  
• Both my partner and I have only had each other as our only sexual partners. I've been tested for STIs and Hepatitis and all those were negative. Can we create any of them through having anal sex, or do you have to have them to pass them on? Does having anal sex(without a condom) and being aware of bacterial infections, create Hepatitis A, B or C or anything like that if we are not STI/Hep/AIDS carriers?
  
  
• Can I catch HIV from touching or being touched by a penis without a condom before or after sex?
  
  
• Can yeast infections and cystitis cause PID? Can they also cause the chronic form of PID if not treated?
  
  
• Can you help I am a 16 year old and I have never had sex, but recently I took a course of antibiotics and I have developed this dreadful itch and a clumpy discharge. What’s wrong with me? I can’t go to my doctor I’d be too embarrassed, please, please can you help.
  
  
• Can you only catch an STI (sexually transmitted infection) by having sex with someone who already has a sexually transmitted infection?
  
  
• Could you tell me about the disability resources your organisation offers please?
  
  
• Do I need to go to a doctor to get a script for emergency contraception?
  
  
• Does St John’s Wort decrease the effectiveness of the Emergency Pill?
  
  
• Does a man need to change condoms for every penetration?
  
  
• Does semen carry carcinogenic properties? Does this mean I cannot swallow semen safely during oral sex?
  
  
• Every time we do anything like hand jobs, I bleed afterwards. And just about a week ago, he fingered me and then I bled afterwards. Should I worry? Then I got my period and the smell was appalling. Now my period is finished I still have a cheesy discharge that smells unpleasant. I don't have any other symptoms (no pain or anything). Could this just be due to him having long fingernails or something? I really don't want to see a GP about this.
  
  
• Hello. I live in a country where boys get circumcised as babies. Since I wasn't born here and I'm not religious, I don't have circumcision. On one hand I don't want to have a circumcision because I heard that the feeling that you get from sex won't be as good. But on the other hand it's kind of difficult to live without circumcision in the place where everyone else does have. I was hoping to get some information about the difference between a circumcised and uncircumcised penis. What's good and what's bad about it? Also, I'm kind of worried about what what reaction I may get from a girl when she finds out I'm not circumcised. Does it make any difference to women at all?
  
  
• Hi. I was just wondering - I have been with my boyfriend for a while and we have been having sex but it always seems to hurt me. My boyfriend goes really fast and he says that I should go get checked out because I am very tight! Is there a problem or am is it just because we just started having sex a few months ago? Thanks.
  
  
• How do women masturbate? I'm just curious. Is there any infection that you can get from it?
  
  
• How does caffeine cause breast tenderness in woman?
  
  
• How does emergency contraception work?
  
  
• How effective is the Emergency Pill?
  
  
• How long after sex can a woman become pregnant---hours, days, weeks? How would the woman know if she is pregnant? Does a woman's stomach naturally hurt directly after sex if she is pregnant?
  
  
• How much does the emergency contraceptive pill cost at the chemist?
  
  
• How soon after an accident with a condom do I have to take the Emergency Pill?
  
  
• I am 20 years old and have been suffering with an eating disorder since the age of 14 or 15. Although I am not ready right now, I would like to have children in the future. I am worried that I may have affected my chances of falling pregnant due to suffering from eating problems for so long. How can I find out if I will be able to fall pregnant?
  
  
• I am 21 years old. I used the medication Zoloft for control of Obsessional Compulsive Disorder for a few years. While I was taking the medication my sex drive seemed fine, although it did take me longer to orgasm. Since stopping it, I never feel like sex! Could the Zoloft have permanently effected my sex drive?
  
  
• I am 23 years old and have been in a steady relationship with a girl that I love to death, for almost a year now. Our relationship is great apart from one or two things with our sex lives! We have sex daily because we like it, but I have never been able to cum inside my girls' vagina. Basically, I just don't seem to get enough friction inside her vagina. I have never had sex with any other girls and wonder if her vagina is larger than other girls and if this is due to the fact that my girl has had sex with several other men before me? Can a girls' vagina be stretched by previous sex? I feel sometimes that I am getting her past boyfriends 'leftovers'. What can I do about this?
  
  
• I am 28 years old, and had sex five years ago. It was alright then. I masturbate and during the last couple of years I have noticed that when I go near a girl or start having sex my cum starts coming out of my penis. I also have difficulty in maintaining an erection. I am very worried that I will not be able to sustain an erection and my cum will start coming out before I even try to touch a woman. Is there is any way that will stop my cum coming out prematurely and will help me to sustain an erection. I am very worried and seek help and have not tried sex for 4 years.
  
  
• I am 35 years of age and thinking about starting a family in the next few years. I have heard that there may be some risks to my health and pregnancy if I wait another few years. Can you tell me what the risks are for older women planning a pregnancy.
  
  
• I am a breastfeeding mother currently not using contraception. My partner wants me to make love with him but I am scared of falling pregnant again. He refuses to wear a condom. Can I fall pregnant if I am breastfeeding?
  
  
• I am a man in my forties and although I can get an erection, It feels as if my head and my penis are disconnected! When I have sex I find that I cum too early. Is there any help for this kind of thing?
  
  
• I am an 18 year old boy and I have met a new guy recently. We are aware of safer sex but wondered about the safety of anal stimulation with fingers?
  
  
• I am currently breast feeding my eight month old baby twice a day and we had an accident with withdrawal. If I take the Emergency Pill will I still be able to breast feed?
  
  
• I am planning to have a baby. Once my partner ejaculates inside the vagina, how long do I have to hold it in. I have noticed that within a few minutes the semen comes out, so I am doubtful that enough will remain inside the vagina. Is there any particular position which will keep semen inside the vagina after sex?
  
  
• I am wondering because I haven't had my period yet at all and I am 17, could I still get pregnant if he didn't wear a condom?
  
  
• I exercise 6-7 days per week, between 1/2hr - 3hrs per day, I also follow a restricted calorie intake diet. My periods have been slowly stopping, they went dark brown, and not heavy. I had a pregnancy test done which was negative. This time though for my period there was nothing.. what's happening?
  
  
• I feel like I'm not having an orgasm when I have sex but at the same time I moan a lot. Could I be moaning from the the come-and-go pain that I feel? I also get short of breath after going on for a while. Do I just not know when I'm having an orgasm?
  
  
• I had a baby five and a half months ago. I had no sex drive prior to giving birth, and still have no sexual desire. I love my partner very much but I think his patience is running short.Also whenever my partner and I attempt to have sex it feels very painful and I feel a burning stinging sensation. Is there something wrong with me?
  
  
• I had sex for the first time and afterwards I was sore and bleeding , I felt a bit better but I still bled for about a week , then I had sex again and started bleeding again but I wasn't that sore. Is this normal or is something very wrong ??? Please help.
  
  
• I had sex with a guy as a one night stand without a condom, but he didn’t ejaculate (cum). Could I still catch a disease?
  
  
• I have a friend that says she had sex while wearing a regular tampon when she was intoxicated. I do not believe this is possible, I have heard of the "soft" tampons, but she says this was a regular one.
  
  
• I have a history of endometriosis. In the past, I have had sex without any form of contraception many times, from the age of 15 up, at all times during my cycle. I have never fallen pregnant. After feeling blessed for being so lucky while I was young and stupid, I am now worried that it may be the endo that has stopped me from getting pregnant, and when I want to start a family I won't be able to. What do you think?
  
  
• I have been taking the pill for about three years. I have missed pills last night and the night before in the first week of the cycle. I had sex the nights that I missed the pills. Do I need the Emergency Pill?
  
  
• I have been with my girlfriend for almost 6 years and things are great. She's my best friend and I get to have sex with her! The only problem is that she's never let me cum inside of her without a condom. She's on the pill, and we're monogamous, so I don't see what the problem is. Is she being overly cautious? I know she is really scared to get pregnant. I have respected her every time, but I want to cum in her already! I'm also afraid that when I finally get to do it that she won't like it. I'm her only partner, so she has never felt it before. Any advice?
  
  
• I have had several very loving relationships.I have never had anything sexually traumatic happen to me. I don't hate my body and am very relaxed and enjoy sex. I don't get pleasure from playing with myself and I have tried experimenting with a few things. I need to know if I am physically able to orgasm. I'm getting really annoyed, and my partners feel they cannot satisfy me, no matter how much I massage their ego.
  
  
• I have had unprotected sex with my boyfriend of 7 months. I thought that because I was on the pill, there would be no worries. But I forgot about STD's. My boyfriend and I have no symptoms but he has had unprotected sex with other people in the past. He is the only person I have had sex with. Should I get a test? What is involved? Where do I go?
  
  
• I have noticed that my boyfriends semen is very thick and clotted. Does he need to have this checked and what could it mean?
  
  
• I have one breast bigger than the other.... can you help me?
  
  
• I have recently had dry sex with my boyfriend, meaning we had sex with our clothes still on. I was wondering if I should be worried about pregnancy or am I just over reacting??
  
  
• I just had imperforate hymen surgery. I was wondering what happens after this surgery. They did it because I had a stiff hymen so that I couldn't have vaginal sex.
  
  
• I need to take the Emergency Pill today. I am taking antibiotics for a chest infection. Will the Emergency Pill still work?
  
  
• I recently commenced having sex and now every time I wee, and I need to lots, it burns and hurts like hell ,what's wrong have I caught an STI or what please help!!!!
  
  
• I take medication for epilepsy. Will this stop the emergency contraceptive pill working if I need to take it?
  
  
• I think about naked women when my husband does oral sex/masturbation. I like looking at pictures of naked women. Am I lesbian? I enjoy sex with husband but cannot orgasm from penile stimulation. The women I lust after are perfect and I'm not attracted to women in REAL LIFE - What is wrong with me?
  
  
• I think my vagina is all messed up it doesn't seem to be like its described. The labia doesn't properly cover the inside bits like it should. am I different to everyone else?
  
  
• I was wondering if you can help me. My boyfriend is 18 years old and he ejaculates really fast. We can't have sex for long because of that and I was wondering if there is anything he could do to help? He doesn't want to take any types of pills so what can he do?
  
  
• I'm 16 and want to know whats the go with pubic hair ? Do we shave it off , make a landing strip , change its colour or just leave it as is ? Please help, what do guys prefer bald, trimmed or hairy?
  
  
• I'm a male with a disabilty. I am in a wheel chair. I am not together with my girlfriend anymore and it is very difficult for me to masturbate on my own. Do you have any suggestions about what I could do?
  
  
• I'm in a lesbian relationship and we would both like to have a baby in the near future, but don't know where to go for artificial insemination. Do you have any information?
  
  
• I'm in my early 30s and planning to get pregnant. I was treated for chlamydia when I was younger. Will I still be able to get pregnant?
  
  
• I'm only 15 but when I have an erection I can sometimes see a yellow cheesy substance. What should I do to get rid of it?? I haven't have sex before.
  
  
• I've been able to find answers to questions I had about HPV and cervical cancer. But what can the consequences be of having anal sex with the carrier of HPV?
  
  
• If I am using a cream to treat a yeast infection, can I still receive oral sex?
  
  
• If I drink a lot of alcohol can it lower my chances of becoming pregnant?
  
  
• If I need to undertake the termination procedure do I have to give my medicare details? how much does it cost? do I need to have a parent with me?
  
  
• In the past two months I have taken the ECP three times. Will this affect my health?
  
  
• Is anal sex safe without using any condoms? If not, what infections could get from it? Is there any ointment available to clean the anus before sex?
  
  
• Is it possible to become pregnant if I have sex during my periods and I’m not on the pill?
  
  
• Is it safe to have a colposcopy in pregnancy? I am 18 weeks pregnant and my last pap result showed Cin 1
  
  
• Is it sexual desire that causes the production of hormones (androgens) that cause acne, or do you have to actually ejaculate?
  
  
• Is there any way to get rid of the discharge girls have between their periods?
  
  
• Ive been on Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) for 6 years now, I heard recently in the press that it can cause breast cancer if you're on it for too long. What shall I do?
  
  
• I’ve always felt different from the other little girls growing up. My older brother recently told me that I was born a boy but I had problems with my penis so the doctor suggested to my parents that I should be changed into a baby girl and nurtured as one. I’m now 18 and have been with a man for the first time all the way. I can't stop crying, and the whole time he was inside me I kept wanting to be the man on the girl, but I can't.
  
  
• I’ve heard the IUD can be used as emergency contraception. Is this right?
  
  
• Me and my boyfriend were having sex and we were just starting and he had a hard on, but all of a sudden he got limp and it wasn't even 10 seconds yet.... can you please tell me what happened or what you think might have happened?
  
  
• My baby is three months old and I’m breast feeding. When I have sex it hurts, and my partner thinks I don’t feel the same about him any more.
  
  
• My boyfriend and I are considering having anal sex but I am worried that it may hurt and that he also may get something on his penis. Please give me more information on this subject, thanks.
  
  
• My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex a day ago. I can’t get my hands on an Emergency Pill yet – I’ve been told I have up to 72 hours – what are the chances of falling pregnant if I take it too late? Will it be effective?
  
  
• My boyfriend and I were having anal sex, can I get pregnant if the semen is in my rectum?
  
  
• My boyfriend has some pimple looking things on the shaft of his penis, sometimes if he squeezes one some pussy looking stuff like a pimple comes out. They don’t go away if they are squeezed.
  
  
• My boyfriend's cum tastes truly revolting - much more than either of my other boyfriends... I enjoy oral sex, and have never minded the taste at all if the man comes in my mouth, but my current guy just tastes awful. I was wondering if this might mean something's wrong? Could he have an STD or anything? We've both only been in quite long term relationships before, and have had no diseases or anything we know of, and he has a normal, healthy diet. I'm just a little worried. If this IS normal, then is there anything that can be done about it? He feels quite rejected, I know, by my total refusal to go anywhere near his cum, and I can hardly tell him that other guys taste better!
  
  
• My husband had a traumatic brain injury a few years ago and has lost all interest in sex. His testosterone levels are fine. He will not take Viagra as he says you need the desire to take it – how can we fix this?
  
  
• My partner has a back injury and I have pretty bad arthritis which makes having sex difficult. We were wondering if you could suggest any positions that would make it easier?
  
  
• My period is late. Apart from pregnancy, why else may this have happened? I am 19 yrs old.
  
  
• My period is very irregular and for about 10 months last year I did not even get my period. My doctor told me to go on the pill. Due to me being about 20kg over weight, I've been on and off the pill for about 1 year. My husband and I have been trying to fall pregnant for about 4 months now. I can't go off the pill because I might not even get my period. Please help because I really want to have lots of kids.
  
  
• One of my friends was making out with her boyfriend when he got carried away, and went down her pants and fingered her.She said that she tried to stop him but he wouldn't stop. Now she feels real bad and violated. What do I tell her to make her feel better, and did she do anything wrong? Is this sexual assault?
  
  
• Our baby boy is due any time now and my partner and I are talking about circumcising our son. My husband is circumcised, but we wonder what the current thinking is.
  
  
• Over the years I have become aware that when I ejaculate (cum) in a womans vagina they feel a stinging sensation afterwards. Is there something wrong with me or with them? Do you have an answer for my burning question??
  
  
• Usually when I wake up my foreskin is pulled back but its quite easy to retract it. Is this phimosis??
  
  
• We had a condom break last night and I am at a risky time of my cycle. Is there anything that I can do to stop getting pregnant?
  
  
• What are the chances of catching an STI from oral sex when you don’t use protection such as a dental dam and a condom?
  
  
• What are the risks involved with copper IUDs?
  
  
• What clinical services can I expect from Family Planning NSW and what is the cost? How old do I have to be to be able to come and see one of your doctors or nurses?
  
  
• What does normal cum look like and what's in it? Mine is thick and clumpy, is this OK? How do I know if I am normal!
  
  
• What does the term 'sexual health' mean?
  
  
• What is bacterial vaginosis and how do I know if I have it?
  
  
• What is syphilis and how is it diagnosed?
  
  
• What will happen if I fall pregnant whilst taking the diet pill Duramine? (an appetite suppressant) and how long does it take to get out of your system?
  
  
• What's the story if some of my period blood comes out solid??
  
  
• When my girlfriend is orgasming there is a large issue of liquid right on climax. Not the 'little' amount I see described on websites - but enough to leave a patch hours later on the bed clothes. We really can't tell by smell if it is urine or not, but it's a lot. She is so embarrassed and this is stopping her from enjoying sex. If it is female ‘cum’ could you please explain how much is normal and where it is coming from?
  
  
• When should I expect my period after I take the Emergency Pill?
  
  

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• A doctor has told me that I have thrush. I am being treated for this but I'm worried as I have always had a discharge from my vagina. I think that it started when I was about 14 yrs.
  
  
• After I cum, (usually after about 10 minutes) I seem to have a slow "leaking" of semenal fluid from my penis. Is this normal?
  
  
• Can IUDs (Intra Uterine Devices) cause cancer?
  
  
• Does bleeding when I am using the implant (Implanon®) mean my contraception is not working?
  
  
• Does using the injectable contraceptive affect the chances of me getting pregnant later?
  
  
• For the first 18 months I had no bleeding at all on the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) – it was great. But now for the past six months I have had continuous spotting. I have had a pap smear and an STI check, which were all normal, and a general gynaecology check to make sure nothing else is wrong. What can I do about the bleeding?
  
  
• How can my partner and I determine when she is in her fertile time?
  
  
• How much does the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) cost?
  
  
• How soon after a normal delivery of baby can a couple have sexual intercourse?
  
  
• How soon can I get pregnant after my contraceptive implant (Implanon®) is removed?
  
  
• How soon will my period go back to normal after I have the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) taken out?
  
  
• I am 11 years old. I think that I have a problem. When I rub up against the blankets in bed it feels really good. I told a friend about it and she said I was weird. Is there something wrong with me?
  
  
• I am 28 yrs old and have used the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) for four years. Recently, my doctor suggested I have a bone density test why is this?
  
  
• I am 36 years old and taking the Pill. My doctor said it would be safer if I change to the contraceptive implant (Implanon®), as I’m a smoker. Is this right?
  
  
• I am a lesbian. My new partner informed me that she has Human Papilloma Virus. Can I get this if she performs oral sex on me? or vice versa? Can I get it by just touching her vaginal fluids?
  
  
• I am a middle aged woman going through menopause. I am currently suffering from muscle soreness which the local doctor said was muscle deterioration? Do you think this problem is in anyway related to menopause? What can I do to alleviate the problem?
  
  
• I am breast feeding and my doctor has suggested I try the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) as my contraception. Will this affect my milk supply?
  
  
• I am currently breast feeding and would like to have an IUD fitted. When is the best time to get this done?
  
  
• I am currently using the contraceptive implant, Implanon®, for contraception and have been prescribed antibiotics. Will they affect my contraceptive cover?
  
  
• I am going to get the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) put in soon. Should I keep taking the pill right up until then?
  
  
• I am three weeks late for my contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) and I had sex last night. Do I need emergency contraception or would I still be covered by the injectable contraceptive?
  
  
• I can’t feel my contraceptive implant (Implanon®) in my arm and the doctor was unable to take it out today. What should I do?
  
  
• I had my implant (Implanon®) inserted earlier this year. I have noticed now that it feels bent. I haven't injured my arm or anything so I'm at a loss as to why it feels like this. Do I still have protection against pregnancy or should I get it removed?
  
  
• I have a Health Care Card. How much will it cost to get the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) and how much is it normally?
  
  
• I have a history of heavy periods that last for 8 days. My doctor suggested a progestogen (Mirena) IUD. I do not need contraception so why would this be a suitable choice for me?
  
  
• I have been having irregular bleeding since I had the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) put in two months ago. How long will this go on?
  
  
• I have heard about a new contraceptive rod that goes under the skin on the arm. How does it work?
  
  
• I have just started chemotherapy for breast cancer. I have read on the internet that my partner should wear a condom whilst I am on chemotherapy and for a few weeks afterwards. None of the health practitioners has said this. Can you advise. Many thanks.
  
  
• I have recently miscarried at 5.5 weeks and had a D+C which seems to have gone according to how it should. I have heard that I should wait 3 months to try and conceive again but was told at the clinic that anytime after 2 weeks is okay and my body will know when its ready. This was my first pregnancy.
  
  
• I haven't had my period yet and I am 17. I was wondering if I could I still get pregnant if my boyfriend didn't wear a condom?
  
  
• I know that as a woman using the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) I need to protect my bone density. What can I do to keep my bones healthy and strong?
  
  
• I take medications for epilepsy. Could I use the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) for contraception?
  
  
• I was using hormone replacement for just over 4 years for hot flushes, but I stopped using it 6 months ago because of all the bad publicity about its link with breast cancer. No more hot flushes- but the bad news is that I seem to have developed vaginal dryness which is making sex really uncomfortable. I've also noticed that I'm leaking a little urine when I cough or laugh. What's causing this? Do I have to put up with this for the rest of my life? I don't want to start using hormone therapy again. I am only 49.
  
  
• I would like more information on vaginismus. What is it and how is it treated?
  
  
• I would like to try the contraceptive implant/rod (Implanon®). Where can I get it put in?
  
  
• I'm 22 yrs old and have had problems with my periods for the last few years. I saw my doctor last week and he said I could have something called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. He organised for some blood tests and an ultrasound and I'm still waiting for the results. I've never heard of Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Is it dangerous?
  
  
• I'm 43yrs old and have only had two periods in the last year. Recently, I have begun to have hot flushes and feel as if this may be the menopause. What do you think and can I buy books to read from you on this subject?
  
  
• I'm a 16 yr old guy and my genital area is really itchy. So itchy that I've cut my self a little bit. I've never had sex before. Whats wrong?
  
  
• If I have my contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) early will it stop the bleeding? I had an injection ten weeks ago. My periods stopped after the injection but in the last week I have had vaginal bleeding every day. Is there anything I can do about this?
  
  
• Is there a natural way of increasing the size of breasts?
  
  
• I’m 14 turning 15 in August and my penis is much smaller than my mate’s and I find this pretty embarrassing. Is there anything I can do or am I destined to have a small one for the rest of my life?
  
  
• I’m a lesbian, and I was wondering what happens as far as Pap tests and pelvic exams. I know that sexual intercourse is the requirement for having a Pap test – but I’ve never have normal sexual intercourse, nor do ever I intend to.
  
  
• I’m breastfeeding my baby. Can I use the injectable contraceptive (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®)?
  
  
• I’ve been using the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) for nine months. I’ve noticed that I’m dry during sex. Why do you think this is?
  
  
• My baby is five weeks old. When could I have the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) inserted?
  
  
• My boyfriend and I were recently messing around and we got so caught up in the moment that he put his penis inside my vagina. He was only in there for a few seconds and he didn't get in very far at all before we realised he didn't have a condom on. This was my first time having any kind of intercourse and I know that he had pre cum on his penis. Is there a big chance that i could be pregnant?
  
  
• My erection curves up and to the left, I believe this is Peyronie's disease from a childhood injury. Sex can be quite painful for me. Are there any treatments to straighten my erection or am I stuck with it this way? (because it is embarrassing as well)
  
  
• My mother-in law, a really energetic woman in her late 60s, was recently diagnosed with ovarian cancer. The only symptoms she had to let her know that she might have had a problem were a bit of mild indigestion and some tummy bloating-which she put down to putting on some weight.
  
  
• My partner has a back injury and I have pretty bad arthritis which makes having sex difficult. We were wondering if you could suggest any positions that would make it easier?
  
  
• My problem is I wasn't able to urinate. I got some tests done that showed that I have a "tight bladder". My doctor put me on the drug Flomax. She told me that when I ejaculate it may go into my bladder. Is this harmful? Will it be like this as long as I'm on the drug? Also, when I have sex, the sensation or orgasm isn't as strong when I cum this way. This is a problem for me. The doctor said I may be on this drug indefinitely. I really don't want my ejaculate to go into my bladder every time... Is this just temporary?
  
  
• Our doctor has told both my mum and me that we would be best not to use the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) because of our ages – she is 49 and I am 17. What’s the story with this?
  
  
• Recently, after a few drinks, I found myself giving in to sexual activity with an older male acquaintance. It escalated into what I guess could be called D&S (dominant & submissive) play involving restraint, painful biting & slapping and general dirty talk. (With him overpowering me.) While part of me enjoyed it, another part was terrified. Problems began when it seemed as though once restraint was in place, all boundaries were lost. He knew I did not agree to having unprotected sex, yet I recall on 2 occasions throughout the night feeling his penetration and repeatedly screaming no, fighting him; however having not agreed on any 'safeword' I guess he took it as part of the game and both times continued to thrust for several moments before pulling out, stroking me and asking what was the matter. He later held me down to cum all over my face and smeared it with his hands, laughing. This behaviour freaked me right out as it seemed like being with a stranger, rather than someone I knew. I realise it was all part of acting out a fantasy of domination & restraint, but now I feel dirty, confused and intimidated by this man. What went wrong?
  
  
• What are the most common side effects of the contraceptive implant (Implanon®)?
  
  
• What are the risks associated with copper in the body if I had a copper-bearing IUD inserted?
  
  
• What happens when I get my Implanon® taken out?
  
  
• What is an IUD?
  
  
• What is the procedure for having the contraceptive implant/rod (Implanon®) put in?
  
  
• What types of IUDs (Intra Uterine Devices) are currently available in Australia?
  
  

Men

• I am a 20 year old man and have had sex once in my life. I have been close to having sex many times. The first time I wasn't able to gain an erection because I was nervous. I have no trouble getting an erection by myself and now every time I go to have sex I am worried that I won't be able to get an erection. I have a girlfriend now and have talked about it a little but still feel uncomfortable. I have seen a counsellor but I still worry about it. Is there something wrong with me physically or mentally or what? Please help!!!!!! I have had enough of embarrassing moments please help me!
  
  
• After I cum, (usually after about 10 minutes) I seem to have a slow "leaking" of semenal fluid from my penis. Is this normal?
  
  
• After a man has had a vasectomy, apart from a reversal are there other options to achieve a pregnancy?
  
  
• After the first round of ejaculation, blood came out of my boyfriend's penis.It stopped only after about 3 minutes, the flow was not very heavy. This is worrying me. Should he go for a check up as soon as possible?
  
  
• Before I have sex, my boyfriend usually fingers me, but lately I have noticed that my vagina inside swells up on one side and is really painful which makes sex really painful. And after when I go to the toilet it stings, and my vagina is really red where it has swollen, what is wrong with me?
  
  
• Can I store sperm before I have my vasectomy in case we want a pregnancy later?
  
  
• Can a vasectomy be reversed? How can I organise this?
  
  
• Can a virgin fall pregnant, and will my partner know if my hymen is broken?
  
  
• Can you get a vasectomy or a tubal sterilisation in the public hospitals?
  
  
• How can I keep condoms as safe as possible?
  
  
• How can my partner and I determine when she is in her fertile time?
  
  
• How do I arrange a Vasectomy?
  
  
• How much do Diaphragms cost and where in Sydney can I get one fitted?
  
  
• How soon after a normal delivery of baby can a couple have sexual intercourse?
  
  
• I am 38, work full-time and have three teenage children. Although I love my partner I’m just not interested in sex anymore. Can you help?
  
  
• I am thinking about getting a Diaphragm for contraception. What is the failure rate if I choose to use it every time we have sex?
  
  
• I had a Diaphragm years ago and have just been refitted, as I can no longer take the pill. I used to use spermicide, which was really messy. Do I still need to use spermicide? If so where can I get it?
  
  
• I have a latex allergy. Can I still use a condom?
  
  
• I have been wet dreaming for last 2 years. Firstly, it was continuous and then cut down a little bit and nowadays, the rate is again very high, almost every day. I don’t know what this is?
  
  
• I have dated two muscle men, and they both have a very small penis. It will not get hard, yet they both are able to have an orgasm. What is this reason for the limp, small, penis?
  
  
• I have just started chemotherapy for breast cancer. I have read on the internet that my partner should wear a condom whilst I am on chemotherapy and for a few weeks afterwards. None of the health practitioners has said this. Can you advise. Many thanks.
  
  
• I have just started sleeping with this guy and I noticed that he has hundreds of tiny lumps in a line along the edge of the ridge at the top of his penis. What do you think they could be?
  
  
• I have noticed that I have a piece of skin just inside the opening of my vagina that is like a piece of string going across the opening, is this normal and will it get in the way during intercourse?
  
  
• I have stretch marks all over my breasts, it's so embarrassing and I dont want to keep hiding them. I want a cream or something that gets rid of them. Please help me.
  
  
• I often feel more like sex during my period, is it safe to make love while I am having my period?
  
  
• Is it OK to masturbate, and how often is normal?
  
  
• Is it possible to have a period after you've fallen pregnant?
  
  
• I’m 14 turning 15 in August and my penis is much smaller than my mate’s and I find this pretty embarrassing. Is there anything I can do or am I destined to have a small one for the rest of my life?
  
  
• I’m a 13-year-old boy. I’ve suddenly developed breasts, what’s happening to me? Am I turning into a girl? I’m so embarrassed and I don’t dare take of my shirt in case someone sees them and then everyone would know. Can you help me, I’m scared and don’t know what to do.
  
  
• My 21-year-old guy worries about the size of his penis, though he’s six-and-a-half inches (16cm). He has heard that taking testosterone will make his penis bigger. Is this true? If so, is his GP able to prescribe the medication for him?
  
  
• My baby is three months old and I’m breast feeding. When I have sex it hurts, and my partner thinks I don’t feel the same about him any more.
  
  
• My erection curves up and to the left, I believe this is Peyronie's disease from a childhood injury. Sex can be quite painful for me. Are there any treatments to straighten my erection or am I stuck with it this way? (because it is embarrassing as well)
  
  
• My husband has recently started to have erection problems. What could be happening?
  
  
• My partner has a back injury and I have pretty bad arthritis which makes having sex difficult. We were wondering if you could suggest any positions that would make it easier?
  
  
• My problem is I wasn't able to urinate. I got some tests done that showed that I have a "tight bladder". My doctor put me on the drug Flomax. She told me that when I ejaculate it may go into my bladder. Is this harmful? Will it be like this as long as I'm on the drug? Also, when I have sex, the sensation or orgasm isn't as strong when I cum this way. This is a problem for me. The doctor said I may be on this drug indefinitely. I really don't want my ejaculate to go into my bladder every time... Is this just temporary?
  
  
• One of my testicles is larger than the other, is that normal I am 19?
  
  
• Other than not getting your periods, are there any other signs that mean you could be pregnant?
  
  
• Recently I noticed some discoloured skin in my pubic area. I squeezed it and some thick white stuff came out and then a blood blister formed. I have never had sex before, but I am worried and wonder what it is.
  
  
• Recently, after a few drinks, I found myself giving in to sexual activity with an older male acquaintance. It escalated into what I guess could be called D&S (dominant & submissive) play involving restraint, painful biting & slapping and general dirty talk. (With him overpowering me.) While part of me enjoyed it, another part was terrified. Problems began when it seemed as though once restraint was in place, all boundaries were lost. He knew I did not agree to having unprotected sex, yet I recall on 2 occasions throughout the night feeling his penetration and repeatedly screaming no, fighting him; however having not agreed on any 'safeword' I guess he took it as part of the game and both times continued to thrust for several moments before pulling out, stroking me and asking what was the matter. He later held me down to cum all over my face and smeared it with his hands, laughing. This behaviour freaked me right out as it seemed like being with a stranger, rather than someone I knew. I realise it was all part of acting out a fantasy of domination & restraint, but now I feel dirty, confused and intimidated by this man. What went wrong?
  
  
• Sometimes when I move around or get up in the morning my vagina makes farting noises which are really embarrassing! What does this mean?
  
  
• Until now my boyfriend has been “pulling out” before he ejaculates, but I have just started on the pill and for the first time my boyfriend has been ejaculating inside me. His semen (cum) seems to leak out of me. Why is that?
  
  
• What do "STD" tests for men and women consist of?
  
  
• What is the difference between a female condom and a male condom?
  
  
• What is the female condom made of?
  
  
• When I masturbate I usually have an orgasm quite quickly. I'm scared that if I have sex with a female I'm going to orgasm too early. Is there any way I can delay my orgasm?
  
  
• When ever my boyfriend fingers me my vagina gets really sore and I get thrush symptoms. What should I do?
  
  
• When my boyfriend caresses my G-spot I always feel this urge to wee. I go to the toilet before he fingers me so I don't think I have any urine there. I always tell him to stop because I feel as if I cant hold on any longer. If I let go will I pass urine or will I have an orgasm and cum?
  
  
• Where can I get condoms? How much do they cost and how useful are they?
  
  
• Where can I get the female condom and how much does it cost?
  
  
• Where can my husband go to find out if he has a healthy or low sperm count?
  
  
• Why do I have to keep a diaphragm in for six hours after having sex?
  
  

Women

• A doctor has told me that I have thrush. I am being treated for this but I'm worried as I have always had a discharge from my vagina. I think that it started when I was about 14 yrs.
  
  
• After the first round of ejaculation, blood came out of my boyfriend's penis.It stopped only after about 3 minutes, the flow was not very heavy. This is worrying me. Should he go for a check up as soon as possible?
  
  
• Before I have sex, my boyfriend usually fingers me, but lately I have noticed that my vagina inside swells up on one side and is really painful which makes sex really painful. And after when I go to the toilet it stings, and my vagina is really red where it has swollen, what is wrong with me?
  
  
• Can I skip my period on Trifeme/Triphasil/ Triquilar/Logynon pills?
  
  
• Can I skip periods if I use the vaginal ring?
  
  
• Can I take the Minipill if I suffer from focal migraine and take medication for my blood pressure?
  
  
• Can IUDs (Intra Uterine Devices) cause cancer?
  
  
• Can a virgin fall pregnant, and will my partner know if my hymen is broken?
  
  
• Can alcohol or ecstasy make any difference to the contraceptive effect of the Pill?
  
  
• Can the vaginal ring fall out of my vagina at any time? If not, how does it stay in?
  
  
• Can you get a vasectomy or a tubal sterilisation in the public hospitals?
  
  
• Can you tell me about the newer method of tubal sterilisation that doesn’t require a general anaesthetic?
  
  
• Does bleeding when I am using the implant (Implanon®) mean my contraception is not working?
  
  
• Does using the injectable contraceptive affect the chances of me getting pregnant later?
  
  
• Every so often when I take the contraceptive pill, I get bleeding when my periods not due. It’s not heavy, but enough to drive me crazy. What causes this?
  
  
• For my past approx six periods I have had a sore vagina, when I go to the toilet it is fine, but when I wipe myself it stings enough to make me cringe! Lately I have been getting a really blobby discharge and more yellow than I normally get, are these things related? What's wrong with me?
  
  
• For the first 18 months I had no bleeding at all on the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) – it was great. But now for the past six months I have had continuous spotting. I have had a pap smear and an STI check, which were all normal, and a general gynaecology check to make sure nothing else is wrong. What can I do about the bleeding?
  
  
• For the past 6 months, for a week before my period comes I have a really thick mostly black, slightly reddish discharge, and then my normal period starts. I don't have any pain. From what have read in the magazines about STIs I know one of the symptoms of Chlamydia is abnormal bleeding, so I am really worried this might be the cause, but I don't want to go to the doctor.
  
  
• How can I keep condoms as safe as possible?
  
  
• How can my partner and I determine when she is in her fertile time?
  
  
• How does the Minipill affect my chances of getting pregnant later on?
  
  
• How does the Pill work?
  
  
• How does the Vaginal Ring work?
  
  
• How does the minipill work?
  
  
• How long after stopping the Pill should we start trying for a baby?
  
  
• How much do Diaphragms cost and where in Sydney can I get one fitted?
  
  
• How much does the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) cost?
  
  
• How much does the pill cost?
  
  
• How soon after a normal delivery of baby can a couple have sexual intercourse?
  
  
• How soon can I get pregnant after my contraceptive implant (Implanon®) is removed?
  
  
• How soon does the Essure® method start to work and what is its effectiveness?
  
  
• How soon will my period go back to normal after I have the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) taken out?
  
  
• I am 28 yrs old and have used the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) for four years. Recently, my doctor suggested I have a bone density test why is this?
  
  
• I am 29 and have been taking the Pill for about ten years. What affects will the long-term use of the Pill have on my fertility?
  
  
• I am 36 years old and taking the Pill. My doctor said it would be safer if I change to the contraceptive implant (Implanon®), as I’m a smoker. Is this right?
  
  
• I am 38, work full-time and have three teenage children. Although I love my partner I’m just not interested in sex anymore. Can you help?
  
  
• I am a 43-year-old smoker. My doctor suggested I change from the combined contraceptive pill to the Minipill. How does this contraception differ from the combined pill?
  
  
• I am a lesbian. My new partner informed me that she has Human Papilloma Virus. Can I get this if she performs oral sex on me? or vice versa? Can I get it by just touching her vaginal fluids?
  
  
• I am a middle aged woman going through menopause. I am currently suffering from muscle soreness which the local doctor said was muscle deterioration? Do you think this problem is in anyway related to menopause? What can I do to alleviate the problem?
  
  
• I am breast feeding and my doctor has suggested I try the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) as my contraception. Will this affect my milk supply?
  
  
• I am currently breast feeding and would like to have an IUD fitted. When is the best time to get this done?
  
  
• I am currently using the contraceptive implant, Implanon®, for contraception and have been prescribed antibiotics. Will they affect my contraceptive cover?
  
  
• I am going to get the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) put in soon. Should I keep taking the pill right up until then?
  
  
• I am thinking about getting a Diaphragm for contraception. What is the failure rate if I choose to use it every time we have sex?
  
  
• I am three weeks late for my contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) and I had sex last night. Do I need emergency contraception or would I still be covered by the injectable contraceptive?
  
  
• I can’t feel my contraceptive implant (Implanon®) in my arm and the doctor was unable to take it out today. What should I do?
  
  
• I don’t want to rely solely on breastfeeding for contraception. Is there a pill I can take while I am breast feeding?
  
  
• I get these pimples on my vagina, but they are like little blisters please help?
  
  
• I had a Diaphragm years ago and have just been refitted, as I can no longer take the pill. I used to use spermicide, which was really messy. Do I still need to use spermicide? If so where can I get it?
  
  
• I had my implant (Implanon®) inserted earlier this year. I have noticed now that it feels bent. I haven't injured my arm or anything so I'm at a loss as to why it feels like this. Do I still have protection against pregnancy or should I get it removed?
  
  
• I have a Health Care Card. How much will it cost to get the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) and how much is it normally?
  
  
• I have a history of heavy periods that last for 8 days. My doctor suggested a progestogen (Mirena) IUD. I do not need contraception so why would this be a suitable choice for me?
  
  
• I have a latex allergy. Can I still use a condom?
  
  
• I have acne and am starting the Pill for contraception. Which Pill would help with this?
  
  
• I have been bothered by Gardnerella (Bacterial vaginosis) for about six months now. I have seen the doctor a couple of times for antibiotics, the smell goes away for a while and then returns. I don't like taking so many antibiotics and I'm becoming a little hung up with my sex life with this terrible smell. I have tried vinegar and water douches with no success. Can you suggest anything else?
  
  
• I have been having irregular bleeding since I had the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) put in two months ago. How long will this go on?
  
  
• I have had vaginal discharge for a few years now. Earlier this year I had it looked at and was told it was normal. I do not feel it is a normal amount that I am having, and was wondering what I could take to get rid of it. I know my diet will have to change, but I wanted to know if I could take antibiotics or something?
  
  
• I have heard about a new contraceptive rod that goes under the skin on the arm. How does it work?
  
  
• I have heard there are newer more expensive pills that are better for skin and weight problems. Can you tell me about these Pills?
  
  
• I have just been diagnosed with HPV (warts), am being treated, have had a pap smear and am waiting on the results. How will this affect my sexual relationship with my partner, my chances of pregnancy in the future and should I be making any lifestyle changes to make this more comfortable for the both of us?
  
  
• I have just started chemotherapy for breast cancer. I have read on the internet that my partner should wear a condom whilst I am on chemotherapy and for a few weeks afterwards. None of the health practitioners has said this. Can you advise. Many thanks.
  
  
• I have just started sleeping with this guy and I noticed that he has hundreds of tiny lumps in a line along the edge of the ridge at the top of his penis. What do you think they could be?
  
  
• I have just started the Pill, when will I be protected from pregnancy?
  
  
• I have noticed that I have a piece of skin just inside the opening of my vagina that is like a piece of string going across the opening, is this normal and will it get in the way during intercourse?
  
  
• I have noticed this strong odour which is getting worse each day and I also have a yukky brown discharge. I shower daily and I had my period about 8 days ago ,I have never had sex what is causing this smell? It smells like a dead cat and I am sure everyone can smell me... PLEASE HELP
  
  
• I have recently miscarried at 5.5 weeks and had a D+C which seems to have gone according to how it should. I have heard that I should wait 3 months to try and conceive again but was told at the clinic that anytime after 2 weeks is okay and my body will know when its ready. This was my first pregnancy.
  
  
• I have stretch marks all over my breasts, it's so embarrassing and I dont want to keep hiding them. I want a cream or something that gets rid of them. Please help me.
  
  
• I haven't had my period yet and I am 17. I was wondering if I could I still get pregnant if my boyfriend didn't wear a condom?
  
  
• I haven’t missed any pills but my period didn’t come this month – should I be worried and could I be pregnant?
  
  
• I know that as a woman using the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) I need to protect my bone density. What can I do to keep my bones healthy and strong?
  
  
• I often feel more like sex during my period, is it safe to make love while I am having my period?
  
  
• I recently had spotting on day 17 of my menstrual cycle. I use a barrier method of contraception. What are the possible causes of this bleeding?
  
  
• I take medication for epilepsy. Will this stop the contraceptive Pill working if I need to take it?
  
  
• I take medications for epilepsy. Could I use the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) for contraception?
  
  
• I take the combined pill. Recently I took a course of antibiotics and know that they may reduce the effectiveness of the Pill. How long before I can rely on the Pill again?
  
  
• I think I have a vaginal infection, lately my vagina is really itchy and I have a thick white discharge. I have not yet had penetrative sex, can you help?
  
  
• I use the Minipill for contraception. Yesterday I was six hours late taking my pill. When will I be covered again?
  
  
• I was using hormone replacement for just over 4 years for hot flushes, but I stopped using it 6 months ago because of all the bad publicity about its link with breast cancer. No more hot flushes- but the bad news is that I seem to have developed vaginal dryness which is making sex really uncomfortable. I've also noticed that I'm leaking a little urine when I cough or laugh. What's causing this? Do I have to put up with this for the rest of my life? I don't want to start using hormone therapy again. I am only 49.
  
  
• I was wondering how long I should wait to have unprotected sex after a herpes outbreak?
  
  
• I went through menopause about 16 years ago, about the time I got divorced. Three years ago I developed a new relationship with a man I met online. He lives in another state but we keep regular contact by email and sometimes have what is called “cyber-sex”. We meet in person when we can and have a great time together, but I feel a bit guilty, as I am getting older. What do you think?
  
  
• I would like more information on vaginismus. What is it and how is it treated?
  
  
• I would like to try the contraceptive implant/rod (Implanon®). Where can I get it put in?
  
  
• I'm 15 yrs old and need contraception. I was thinking of using the Pill, but don’t want to tell my mum. Can I get the Pill from the doctor without her finding out?
  
  
• I'm 22 yrs old and have had problems with my periods for the last few years. I saw my doctor last week and he said I could have something called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. He organised for some blood tests and an ultrasound and I'm still waiting for the results. I've never heard of Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Is it dangerous?
  
  
• I'm 43yrs old and have only had two periods in the last year. Recently, I have begun to have hot flushes and feel as if this may be the menopause. What do you think and can I buy books to read from you on this subject?
  
  
• I'm a 34 yr old woman and single. I plan to have a baby in a couple of years. I am wondering what my options are?
  
  
• If I have my contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) early will it stop the bleeding? I had an injection ten weeks ago. My periods stopped after the injection but in the last week I have had vaginal bleeding every day. Is there anything I can do about this?
  
  
• If I skip my period on the Pill, will I have the same contraceptive cover all through the month?
  
  
• If I take the Vaginal Ring out during the active cycle, how long can I leave it out before I lose my contraceptive cover?
  
  
• In the vaginal ring product brochure, it says that the new ring must be reinserted exactly seven days from removing the old ring. What happens to my contraceptive cover if I am five hours late? For example, I took it out at 7am on the last day of the old ring, and put in the new one at midday on the first day of the new ring.
  
  
• Is it possible to have a period after you've fallen pregnant?
  
  
• Is skipping my period on the Pill OK for my health?
  
  
• Is the Pill 100% safe for contraception?
  
  
• Is the vaginal ring as effective as the pill given that it has much lower hormone amounts?
  
  
• Is there a natural way of increasing the size of breasts?
  
  
• I’m a 27-year-old woman, and I’ve never had an orgasm. I think I nearly did once with fingering. How can I have one and what should I expect?
  
  
• I’m a lesbian, and I was wondering what happens as far as Pap tests and pelvic exams. I know that sexual intercourse is the requirement for having a Pap test – but I’ve never have normal sexual intercourse, nor do ever I intend to.
  
  
• I’m breast feeding, when can I start the Minipill?
  
  
• I’m breastfeeding my baby. Can I use the injectable contraceptive (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®)?
  
  
• I’m on the Pill. When is the unsafe time in my cycle?
  
  
• I’m starting the Minipill, when will I be protected from pregnancy?
  
  
• I’m thinking of taking the Minipill. Will my periods change?
  
  
• I’ve been using the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) for nine months. I’ve noticed that I’m dry during sex. Why do you think this is?
  
  
• Lately, my breasts have been itchy. The skin on my breasts looks a little dry and scaly. I also noticed what looked like a tiny scab on one of my nipples. At first I just thought it was dry skin. Could it be anything else? I've heard you can get thrush on your nipples, but I don't see how I could have got this.
  
  
• My baby is five weeks old. When could I have the contraceptive implant (Implanon®) inserted?
  
  
• My baby is three months old and I’m breast feeding. When I have sex it hurts, and my partner thinks I don’t feel the same about him any more.
  
  
• My boyfriend and I were recently messing around and we got so caught up in the moment that he put his penis inside my vagina. He was only in there for a few seconds and he didn't get in very far at all before we realised he didn't have a condom on. This was my first time having any kind of intercourse and I know that he had pre cum on his penis. Is there a big chance that i could be pregnant?
  
  
• My daughter is 19 years old and had been menstruating for 6 years now. She has never had a regular period, sometimes after 1 month and sometimes after 2 months. Is this something that we need to worry about? If so, what should we do?
  
  
• My doctor started me on the Pill a month ago, but I don’t feel ‘right’. My breasts are sore and I feel sick in the stomach. Has the doctor given me the wrong Pill?
  
  
• My girlfriend and I are off for a holiday in Bali for a month and we do not want to have a period during this time. Can we skip our bleeds while we are away?
  
  
• My husband has recently started to have erection problems. What could be happening?
  
  
• My mother-in law, a really energetic woman in her late 60s, was recently diagnosed with ovarian cancer. The only symptoms she had to let her know that she might have had a problem were a bit of mild indigestion and some tummy bloating-which she put down to putting on some weight.
  
  
• My partner has a back injury and I have pretty bad arthritis which makes having sex difficult. We were wondering if you could suggest any positions that would make it easier?
  
  
• Once you have found out that you are pregnant, when can you arrange an abortion?
  
  
• Other than not getting your periods, are there any other signs that mean you could be pregnant?
  
  
• Our doctor has told both my mum and me that we would be best not to use the contraceptive injection (Depo Provera®/Depo Ralovera®) because of our ages – she is 49 and I am 17. What’s the story with this?
  
  
• Recently I noticed some discoloured skin in my pubic area. I squeezed it and some thick white stuff came out and then a blood blister formed. I have never had sex before, but I am worried and wonder what it is.
  
  
• Recently, after a few drinks, I found myself giving in to sexual activity with an older male acquaintance. It escalated into what I guess could be called D&S (dominant & submissive) play involving restraint, painful biting & slapping and general dirty talk. (With him overpowering me.) While part of me enjoyed it, another part was terrified. Problems began when it seemed as though once restraint was in place, all boundaries were lost. He knew I did not agree to having unprotected sex, yet I recall on 2 occasions throughout the night feeling his penetration and repeatedly screaming no, fighting him; however having not agreed on any 'safeword' I guess he took it as part of the game and both times continued to thrust for several moments before pulling out, stroking me and asking what was the matter. He later held me down to cum all over my face and smeared it with his hands, laughing. This behaviour freaked me right out as it seemed like being with a stranger, rather than someone I knew. I realise it was all part of acting out a fantasy of domination & restraint, but now I feel dirty, confused and intimidated by this man. What went wrong?
  
  
• Sometimes when I move around or get up in the morning my vagina makes farting noises which are really embarrassing! What does this mean?
  
  
• The skin on my face has developed brown blotches and I understand it can be caused by the Pill and the sun. I take Norimin 1. Is there anything I can do to make them go away?
  
  
• This never use to happen to me at all, and all of a sudden I have been fanny farting all the time during sex. I have changed partners so maybe size??? When I am doing my yoga exercises I have my legs in the air and pull my pelvis in and out and this creates a huge amount of air. Help!
  
  
• Until now my boyfriend has been “pulling out” before he ejaculates, but I have just started on the pill and for the first time my boyfriend has been ejaculating inside me. His semen (cum) seems to leak out of me. Why is that?
  
  
• What are the most common side effects of the contraceptive implant (Implanon®)?
  
  
• What are the possible side effects from the Essure® procedure?
  
  
• What are the risks associated with copper in the body if I had a copper-bearing IUD inserted?
  
  
• What do "STD" tests for men and women consist of?
  
  
• What happens when I get my Implanon® taken out?
  
  
• What is an IUD?
  
  
• What is the difference between a female condom and a male condom?
  
  
• What is the female condom made of?
  
  
• What is the procedure for having the contraceptive implant/rod (Implanon®) put in?
  
  
• What types of IUDs (Intra Uterine Devices) are currently available in Australia?
  
  
• What’s wrong with me? I used to really want sex as a teenager, and I love my partner. How can I get it back?
  
  
• When I masturbate I usually have an orgasm quite quickly. I'm scared that if I have sex with a female I'm going to orgasm too early. Is there any way I can delay my orgasm?
  
  
• When I stop taking the Pill how long will it take for my normal cycle to return?
  
  
• When I was younger I went to a party and kissed another woman, which then led to us having sex. This never happened again but I was curious about sex with women and wanted to have that experience. I’m attracted to guys, but am I bisexual?
  
  
• When ever my boyfriend fingers me my vagina gets really sore and I get thrush symptoms. What should I do?
  
  
• When my boyfriend caresses my G-spot I always feel this urge to wee. I go to the toilet before he fingers me so I don't think I have any urine there. I always tell him to stop because I feel as if I cant hold on any longer. If I let go will I pass urine or will I have an orgasm and cum?
  
  
• Where can I get Essure® inserted?
  
  
• Where can I get condoms? How much do they cost and how useful are they?
  
  
• Where can I get the female condom and how much does it cost?
  
  
• Why do I have to keep a diaphragm in for six hours after having sex?
  
  
• Will my partner feel the ring during sex, and could it get caught on the penis?
  
  

Young people

• I am a 20 year old man and have had sex once in my life. I have been close to having sex many times. The first time I wasn't able to gain an erection because I was nervous. I have no trouble getting an erection by myself and now every time I go to have sex I am worried that I won't be able to get an erection. I have a girlfriend now and have talked about it a little but still feel uncomfortable. I have seen a counsellor but I still worry about it. Is there something wrong with me physically or mentally or what? Please help!!!!!! I have had enough of embarrassing moments please help me!
  
  
• A doctor has told me that I have thrush. I am being treated for this but I'm worried as I have always had a discharge from my vagina. I think that it started when I was about 14 yrs.
  
  
• After I cum, (usually after about 10 minutes) I seem to have a slow "leaking" of semenal fluid from my penis. Is this normal?
  
  
• After the first round of ejaculation, blood came out of my boyfriend's penis.It stopped only after about 3 minutes, the flow was not very heavy. This is worrying me. Should he go for a check up as soon as possible?
  
  
• All my friends talk about first , second & third base but I don't know what it is could you please explain?
  
  
• Before I have sex, my boyfriend usually fingers me, but lately I have noticed that my vagina inside swells up on one side and is really painful which makes sex really painful. And after when I go to the toilet it stings, and my vagina is really red where it has swollen, what is wrong with me?
  
  
• Can I skip my period on Trifeme/Triphasil/ Triquilar/Logynon pills?
  
  
• Can I skip periods if I use the vaginal ring?
  
  
• Can I take the Minipill if I suffer from focal migraine and take medication for my blood pressure?
  
  
• Can IUDs (Intra Uterine Devices) cause cancer?
  
  
• Can a virgin fall pregnant, and will my partner know if my hymen is broken?
  
  
• Can alcohol or ecstasy make any difference to the contraceptive effect of the Pill?
  
  
• Can my boyfriend and I use a condom if we make love in the shower? If not, which kind of contraception can we use?
  
  
• Can the vaginal ring fall out of my vagina at any time? If not, how does it stay in?
  
  
• Every so often when I take the contraceptive pill, I get bleeding when my periods not due. It’s not heavy, but enough to drive me crazy. What causes this?
  
  
• First time sex, what’s it like?
  
  
• For my past approx six periods I have had a sore vagina, when I go to the toilet it is fine, but when I wipe myself it stings enough to make me cringe! Lately I have been getting a really blobby discharge and more yellow than I normally get, are these things related? What's wrong with me?
  
  
• For the past 6 months, for a week before my period comes I have a really thick mostly black, slightly reddish discharge, and then my normal period starts. I don't have any pain. From what have read in the magazines about STIs I know one of the symptoms of Chlamydia is abnormal bleeding, so I am really worried this might be the cause, but I don't want to go to the doctor.
  
  
• How can I keep condoms as safe as possible?
  
  
• How do women masturbate? I'm just curious. Is there any infection that you can get from it?
  
  
• How does the Minipill affect my chances of getting pregnant later on?
  
  
• How does the Pill work?
  
  
• How does the Vaginal Ring work?
  
  
• How does the minipill work?
  
  
• How long after stopping the Pill should we start trying for a baby?
  
  
• How much do Diaphragms cost and where in Sydney can I get one fitted?
  
  
• How much does the pill cost?
  
  
• How will I know if my vagina is tight?
  
  
• I am 11 years old. I think that I have a problem. When I rub up against the blankets in bed it feels really good. I told a friend about it and she said I was weird. Is there something wrong with me?
  
  
• I am 29 and have been taking the Pill for about ten years. What affects will the long-term use of the Pill have on my fertility?
  
  
• I am a 16 year old girl and I've never had sex. I've noticed that I have these pimply things on my pubes and they get itchy at times. Also I'm not sure if this is related but I have these cold sores at the back of my tongue. Please help?
  
  
• I am a 43-year-old smoker. My doctor suggested I change from the combined contraceptive pill to the Minipill. How does this contraception differ from the combined pill?
  
  
• I am a swimmer. I train twice a week & I am worried about having my first period. Will I have to use a tampon straight away?
  
  
• I am currently breast feeding and would like to have an IUD fitted. When is the best time to get this done?
  
  
• I am still a virgin. Me and my boyfriend do get to "third base" though - touching genitals while we are naked. Is it possible to fall pregnant if no-one has ever been inside me? I am very worried. I do not use contraceptives because his penis never goes inside. He uses a condom.Is there any way to tell when you are pregnant without going to the docter. Thanks for your possible advice!
  
  
• I am thinking about getting a Diaphragm for contraception. What is the failure rate if I choose to use it every time we have sex?
  
  
• I don’t want to rely solely on breastfeeding for contraception. Is there a pill I can take while I am breast feeding?
  
  
• I get these pimples on my vagina, but they are like little blisters please help?
  
  
• I had a Diaphragm years ago and have just been refitted, as I can no longer take the pill. I used to use spermicide, which was really messy. Do I still need to use spermicide? If so where can I get it?
  
  
• I have a history of heavy periods that last for 8 days. My doctor suggested a progestogen (Mirena) IUD. I do not need contraception so why would this be a suitable choice for me?
  
  
• I have a latex allergy. Can I still use a condom?
  
  
• I have acne and am starting the Pill for contraception. Which Pill would help with this?
  
  
• I have been bothered by Gardnerella (Bacterial vaginosis) for about six months now. I have seen the doctor a couple of times for antibiotics, the smell goes away for a while and then returns. I don't like taking so many antibiotics and I'm becoming a little hung up with my sex life with this terrible smell. I have tried vinegar and water douches with no success. Can you suggest anything else?
  
  
• I have been wet dreaming for last 2 years. Firstly, it was continuous and then cut down a little bit and nowadays, the rate is again very high, almost every day. I don’t know what this is?
  
  
• I have dated two muscle men, and they both have a very small penis. It will not get hard, yet they both are able to have an orgasm. What is this reason for the limp, small, penis?
  
  
• I have had vaginal discharge for a few years now. Earlier this year I had it looked at and was told it was normal. I do not feel it is a normal amount that I am having, and was wondering what I could take to get rid of it. I know my diet will have to change, but I wanted to know if I could take antibiotics or something?
  
  
• I have heard there are newer more expensive pills that are better for skin and weight problems. Can you tell me about these Pills?
  
  
• I have just been diagnosed with HPV (warts), am being treated, have had a pap smear and am waiting on the results. How will this affect my sexual relationship with my partner, my chances of pregnancy in the future and should I be making any lifestyle changes to make this more comfortable for the both of us?
  
  
• I have just started sleeping with this guy and I noticed that he has hundreds of tiny lumps in a line along the edge of the ridge at the top of his penis. What do you think they could be?
  
  
• I have just started the Pill, when will I be protected from pregnancy?
  
  
• I have noticed that I have a piece of skin just inside the opening of my vagina that is like a piece of string going across the opening, is this normal and will it get in the way during intercourse?
  
  
• I have noticed this strong odour which is getting worse each day and I also have a yukky brown discharge. I shower daily and I had my period about 8 days ago ,I have never had sex what is causing this smell? It smells like a dead cat and I am sure everyone can smell me... PLEASE HELP
  
  
• I have recently had dry sex with my boyfriend, meaning we had sex with our clothes still on. I was wondering if I should be worried about pregnancy or am I just over reacting??
  
  
• I have stretch marks all over my breasts, it's so embarrassing and I dont want to keep hiding them. I want a cream or something that gets rid of them. Please help me.
  
  
• I haven't had my period yet and I am 17. I was wondering if I could I still get pregnant if my boyfriend didn't wear a condom?
  
  
• I haven’t missed any pills but my period didn’t come this month – should I be worried and could I be pregnant?
  
  
• I often feel more like sex before and after my menstruation is this normal for a woman?
  
  
• I often feel more like sex during my period, is it safe to make love while I am having my period?
  
  
• I recently had spotting on day 17 of my menstrual cycle. I use a barrier method of contraception. What are the possible causes of this bleeding?
  
  
• I take medication for epilepsy. Will this stop the contraceptive Pill working if I need to take it?
  
  
• I take the combined pill. Recently I took a course of antibiotics and know that they may reduce the effectiveness of the Pill. How long before I can rely on the Pill again?
  
  
• I think I have a vaginal infection, lately my vagina is really itchy and I have a thick white discharge. I have not yet had penetrative sex, can you help?
  
  
• I use the Minipill for contraception. Yesterday I was six hours late taking my pill. When will I be covered again?
  
  
• I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend or done anything with a guy. I feel like I'm not good enough & I'm very self concious about my body. I see guys that I like but I know that they won't like me cause Im not that attractive. I feel so depressed.
  
  
• I'm 15 yrs old and need contraception. I was thinking of using the Pill, but don’t want to tell my mum. Can I get the Pill from the doctor without her finding out?
  
  
• I'm a 15 year old girl and I am worried. I have had my periods since I was 11 and for the past 2 years I have had bad tummy aches.I have also been having dizzy spells and vomiting.My mum says my nanna went through the same thing, but I'm still worried. Is there something wrong with me?
  
  
• I'm a 16 yr old guy and my genital area is really itchy. So itchy that I've cut my self a little bit. I've never had sex before. Whats wrong?
  
  
• If I skip my period on the Pill, will I have the same contraceptive cover all through the month?
  
  
• If I take the Vaginal Ring out during the active cycle, how long can I leave it out before I lose my contraceptive cover?
  
  
• If my boyfriend goes to the loo and gets sperm on his hand and then we hold hands can sperm be transferred to my hand? Then, if this is possible and I go to the loo and wipe myself can the sperm get on my vagina and make me pregnant?
  
  
• In the vaginal ring product brochure, it says that the new ring must be reinserted exactly seven days from removing the old ring. What happens to my contraceptive cover if I am five hours late? For example, I took it out at 7am on the last day of the old ring, and put in the new one at midday on the first day of the new ring.
  
  
• Is it OK to masturbate, and how often is normal?
  
  
• Is it possible to have a period after you've fallen pregnant?
  
  
• Is skipping my period on the Pill OK for my health?
  
  
• Is the Pill 100% safe for contraception?
  
  
• Is the vaginal ring as effective as the pill given that it has much lower hormone amounts?
  
  
• Is there a natural way of increasing the size of breasts?
  
  
• I’m 14 turning 15 in August and my penis is much smaller than my mate’s and I find this pretty embarrassing. Is there anything I can do or am I destined to have a small one for the rest of my life?
  
  
• I’m 15 and I’ve got hair where I don’t think you are supposed to have it. It’s on my stomach, between my breasts and on my bottom and back. I don’t like wearing bikinis because of this. What’s wrong with me?
  
  
• I’m a lesbian, and I was wondering what happens as far as Pap tests and pelvic exams. I know that sexual intercourse is the requirement for having a Pap test – but I’ve never have normal sexual intercourse, nor do ever I intend to.
  
  
• I’m breast feeding, when can I start the Minipill?
  
  
• I’m on the Pill. When is the unsafe time in my cycle?
  
  
• I’m starting the Minipill, when will I be protected from pregnancy?
  
  
• I’m thinking of taking the Minipill. Will my periods change?
  
  
• I’ve always felt different from the other little girls growing up. My older brother recently told me that I was born a boy but I had problems with my penis so the doctor suggested to my parents that I should be changed into a baby girl and nurtured as one. I’m now 18 and have been with a man for the first time all the way. I can't stop crying, and the whole time he was inside me I kept wanting to be the man on the girl, but I can't.
  
  
• Lately, my breasts have been itchy. The skin on my breasts looks a little dry and scaly. I also noticed what looked like a tiny scab on one of my nipples. At first I just thought it was dry skin. Could it be anything else? I've heard you can get thrush on your nipples, but I don't see how I could have got this.
  
  
• My boyfriend and I were recently messing around and we got so caught up in the moment that he put his penis inside my vagina. He was only in there for a few seconds and he didn't get in very far at all before we realised he didn't have a condom on. This was my first time having any kind of intercourse and I know that he had pre cum on his penis. Is there a big chance that i could be pregnant?
  
  
• My daughter is 19 years old and had been menstruating for 6 years now. She has never had a regular period, sometimes after 1 month and sometimes after 2 months. Is this something that we need to worry about? If so, what should we do?
  
  
• My doctor started me on the Pill a month ago, but I don’t feel ‘right’. My breasts are sore and I feel sick in the stomach. Has the doctor given me the wrong Pill?
  
  
• My ex boyfriend and I had sex a few times, I have been fingered and I have given him a hand job, we also attempted to have sex except it hurt too much and his penis wouldn't go in. i think it went in about 2-3cms. am i a virgin? do i now need to get a pap smear test?
  
  
• My girlfriend and I are off for a holiday in Bali for a month and we do not want to have a period during this time. Can we skip our bleeds while we are away?
  
  
• One of my testicles is larger than the other, is that normal I am 19?
  
  
• Other than not getting your periods, are there any other signs that mean you could be pregnant?
  
  
• Recently I noticed some discoloured skin in my pubic area. I squeezed it and some thick white stuff came out and then a blood blister formed. I have never had sex before, but I am worried and wonder what it is.
  
  
• Recently it was my boyfriend's birthday and for an extra special birthday pressie I gave him a blowjob. In the middle of sucking his penis, he lost control and urinated in my mouth. Is it possible that I could have caught some sort of STD or disease? Please help me, I'm really worried.
  
  
• Sometimes when I move around or get up in the morning my vagina makes farting noises which are really embarrassing! What does this mean?
  
  
• The skin on my face has developed brown blotches and I understand it can be caused by the Pill and the sun. I take Norimin 1. Is there anything I can do to make them go away?
  
  
• Until now my boyfriend has been “pulling out” before he ejaculates, but I have just started on the pill and for the first time my boyfriend has been ejaculating inside me. His semen (cum) seems to leak out of me. Why is that?
  
  
• What are the chances of catching an STI from oral sex when you don’t use protection such as a dental dam and a condom?
  
  
• What are the risks associated with copper in the body if I had a copper-bearing IUD inserted?
  
  
• What do "STD" tests for men and women consist of?
  
  
• What does sex feel like?
  
  
• What is an IUD?
  
  
• What is the difference between a female condom and a male condom?
  
  
• What is the female condom made of?
  
  
• What types of IUDs (Intra Uterine Devices) are currently available in Australia?
  
  
• What’s wrong with me? I used to really want sex as a teenager, and I love my partner. How can I get it back?
  
  
• When I masturbate I usually have an orgasm quite quickly. I'm scared that if I have sex with a female I'm going to orgasm too early. Is there any way I can delay my orgasm?
  
  
• When I stop taking the Pill how long will it take for my normal cycle to return?
  
  
• When I’m out with my boyfriend and we kiss, his penis gets stiff. Is this normal?
  
  
• When ever my boyfriend fingers me my vagina gets really sore and I get thrush symptoms. What should I do?
  
  
• When my boyfriend caresses my G-spot I always feel this urge to wee. I go to the toilet before he fingers me so I don't think I have any urine there. I always tell him to stop because I feel as if I cant hold on any longer. If I let go will I pass urine or will I have an orgasm and cum?
  
  
• Where can I get condoms? How much do they cost and how useful are they?
  
  
• Where can I get the female condom and how much does it cost?
  
  
• Why do I have to keep a diaphragm in for six hours after having sex?
  
  
• Will my partner feel the ring during sex, and could it get caught on the penis?